How To Stop Victimizing Yourself

Notice how you speak about yourself. "I'm not the person who does that" "I could never" "I never have the time" "I wouldn't know what to say" "I'm not confident" "That won't work for me".

The way you speak about yourself out loud and to yourself in your head is very very important. If you speak negatively, you will project negativity about yourself. This is you putting yourself down, and creating a barrier where there doesn’t need one to be.

Look at change as a journey and not as a task. Changing habits on how you view yourself is not going to happen overnight. It's not a task that can be checked off. Growth, change, and success is not a task. It’s a journey over time. If you want to change your habits, you have to understand that it isn’t an on/off task. It is a process with ups and downs & great days and bad days.

Coach yourself with positive self talk by speaking to yourself with enthusiasm rather than defeat. A coach or trainer motivates the players and helps them build on their own strengths. You are your own coach! Speak to yourself with patience, love, and respect. Your mind should be gently encouraging you whether you get things right or wrong. Instead of ultimatums and anger, let’s work with encouragement.

Embrace your wins and losses. We tend to view success coming from internal factors but failure from external causes. This creates a false sense of self and bias. Let is instead view them both as necessary steps to a goal. Losses make the wins that much sweeter. They are inevitable because you have to learn as you go. Both wins and loses are necessary and still steps forward.

DON'T: Let one moment define you.

DO: Understand that your intentions drive your actions. Be realistic about the root of your problems. Practice gently refocusing your mind.

Experience your best self by rejecting self victimization. Victim culture is not cool. With a victimized mindset you are 100% setting yourself up to fail internally. Tension will be relieved by actively reminding yourself you are exactly where you need to be and that success is within your capabilities. Let’s keep it real and share our journeys.